I, too married young....at 20. Of course we felt it was the thing to do... or else get Df'd for having sex..... which we had anyway - we just didn't tell anyone. The marriage suffered for 13 years until we knew it was over. Then the question is: Who will "fall" first.... by comitting adultery? It was me........ so, like woofy's comment above, I lost everyone and everything I every knew. It has been a struggle..... but I'm not living a lie anymore.....
sister rebelious
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Divorce Rate of Those When Young??
by buffalosrfree inmy daughters were at a club the other evening ( saturday) and ran into 5 witnesses they knew as younger children, they had all been married and were in the process of getting divorced.
four were men, 1 woman, two of the men we had known literally for years and i had liked them all.
i had told my children when they got married that it wouldn't be long before they were married.
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What are you doing this weekend? Is life less interesting now?
by eyeslice inin some ways lfe as a jw was full - is life now more interesting or more of a chore?.
i have businesses to see to tomorrow (saturday) then perhaps i will go out for a few beers with my wife n saturday night.
sunday, catch up on a bit of paperwork and then perhaps watch the football (soccer) on the tv at our local pub.. .
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sister rebelious
Thanks for the welcome(s)...... I'm glad to know there are so many others like me...
I wanted to answer the second part of the question above: Is life less interesting now? Less drama, maybe, but less interesting..... are you kidding?!?! It seems to me that the relief that comes from being myself is so liberating that my life, by natural progession continues to become MORE interesting and fun.
It is a wonderful thing to live my own life and do things that I want to do without being constantly warned that a trap lies just ahead....... or that I don't have the brains to stay out of "trouble".
........ sister rebelious..... just a name I picked up along the way LOL
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What are you doing this weekend? Is life less interesting now?
by eyeslice inin some ways lfe as a jw was full - is life now more interesting or more of a chore?.
i have businesses to see to tomorrow (saturday) then perhaps i will go out for a few beers with my wife n saturday night.
sunday, catch up on a bit of paperwork and then perhaps watch the football (soccer) on the tv at our local pub.. .
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sister rebelious
This is my first post on JWD....
It seems like an easy place to start..... I am in the process of being disfellowshipped for the second time.
My weekends are my own now and I love that. I keep waiting for all the catasrophic, painful attacks of the "outside world" to hit me......... but guess what? They aren't there. Life without guilt and attempts to assasinate my character is so peaceful. I was so lonely as a JW. The lack of acceptance alone is enough to make you crazy. I have finally accepted myself for who I am .... and I like me. I am not a horrible person because I quit attending meetings and going in service........ I am not even a horrible person because I smoke. I was a horrible person for pretending for too long. I have lost my parents and brother and sister in the process....... which is hard to deal with, but I have expressed my openness to them for those relationships to be rekindled. I have my boys, who are also disfellowshipped. We are a great support for each other.
So this weekend is relaxing..... one of my sons has gone to visit my oldest son at college for the weekend. I have recently become re-aquainted with some of my friends who have also left the organization and we will probably have a drink or two tonight. I also have a wonderfully compassionate man who I will undoubtedly spend the rest of the weekend with.
Its just living life..... doing the things I need and want to do....... and not worrying, feeling guilty or second guessing myself all the time.
I hope you all have a peaceful weekend. I'm glad to be here.